They’re not my type

Teenagers and adults are attractive and attracted to different types of people.


Past relationships may affect an individual’s type.


According to a study by Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, “people often look for love with the same type of person over and over again.”


Yoobin Park, a PhD student in the Department of Psychology in the Faculty of Arts & Science at U of T claimed, “It’s common that when a relationship ends, people attribute the breakup to their ex-partner’s personality and decide they need to date a different type of person. Our research suggests there’s a strong tendency to nevertheless continue to date a similar personality.” Park and her associates surveyed individuals on their traits and their past and current romantic partners. She explained her research found, “The degree of consistency from one relationship to the next suggests that people may indeed have a ‘type’.” Park claimed this is used as an advantage as, “If your new partner’s personality resembles your ex-partner’s personality, transferring the skills you learned might be an effective way to start a new relationship on a good footing”


According to Psychology Today, social norms contribute to having a certain type. Social networking leads to the desire of acceptance especially among teenagers. Those who are heavily involved in social media, develop a type that fits in certain social normalities, such as being muscular or skinny. “Filling needs” also is a factor in the creating a romantic type. Some seek for traits in individuals that would help themselves personally, like if they need a kind or strong influence.

Psychology Today also showed environmental factors affect an individual’s type. “Our defenses informed the attachment patterns we developed as young children to get our needs met by our primary caregivers. These early attachment patterns became models for how we expected relationships to work in our adult lives.” They continued, “As we come to know our patterns, we can start to make different choices about who we date.”


Individuals have different romantic types that are influenced by social and environmental factors.